...Soon you find yourself discussing the unpleasant subject with others, and now they add to it, often reaching into their past...until, in a very short period of time, most of you, upon any subject that you ponder very long, attract enough supporting datat that it does bring forth the essence of the subject of the thought into your experience.
----Many people over time become problem oriented rather than solution oriented and in their examination and explanation of the problem, they continue the perpetuation of the problem."
Recognize what you don't like, don't want and then quickly replace your thoughts with what you do want and as soon as you have doubts about the ability to get what you want, you need to set aside the doubts or the topic in general and focus on something else that you do like or you are going to keep bringing to you what you don't want.
It is all such tricky mind stuff! But I really do believe the more you focus on negative things in your life, the more negative your life becomes. Have you ever known somebody who has a physical ailment and then they have one after another physical problem and that is all they seem to talk about and it just keeps getting worse. My stepmother is like that right now almost to a point that I don't want to talk to her because that is all she talks about is all her illnesses that are compounding daily. Whereas my dad has a lot of pain in his back, shoulder, ankle, he's 73, but he doesn't ever talk about it. Even when I ask how is your back? He says its okay and then changes the subject.
I think it is good to keep track every day of how often you are dwelling in the negative vs. the positive.
That is why a Gratitude Journal is so powerful. Everyday write down 5 things you are grateful for, for 30 days and watch your life change.